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Beautiful beautiful piece that felt both intimate and universal. It felt very special to get to know these stories of your ancestors. I gave up studying psychology because I couldn’t shake the feeling that its main aim was to help people to become better functioning cogs in very harmful and dangerous machine and to pathologise those who cannot take part. Your research on the history of nostalgia seemed to echo this

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Thank you so much for this gorgeous reflection, Rose. I'm so grateful for your generosity of presence with this piece. I'm with you that the study of psychology feels manipulative in the ways you describe. The latest version of the DSM is now pathologizing the nonlinear journey of grief as "prolonged grief"... as though there's a time limit. Oof. I hope the field can be redeemed, and I do see promising signs of that. So much patriarchal de-programming needed everywhere.

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Mar 26, 2022Liked by Rachel Simon Stark

As best I could, I read this one aloud to my friends. We were all transported and gulping on the aliveness. Beautiful writing Rachel!

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Lisa, this is so moving to read! Your comment prompted me to tighten it up a bit for a smoother read, so thank you. I'm so grateful for your attention and your heart, and hope for more of it even though our course is ending!

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Thank you so much Rachel for this beautiful essay - Bobby Pins and All. <3

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<3 Heart full, thank you John.

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